Day10/31: Understanding love

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So many relationships today fail because of an inadequate understanding of love.Whats is the difference between loving food and loving your favourite football team.Loving your husband and loving your children?These surely can’t be the same kind of love.For a marriage to properly function,there should be understanding and a balance of these different types of love.English is quite limited in words unlike other languages such as Greek where you can be very specific.Here are the five words for love in the Greek language:-

1.Themos-passionate love
This is the love you have for something you are passionate about.Medicine,job,sport,football team,art,cooking,baking etc.There should be interest shown for what your partner is passionate about.When correctly put in its place,what you are passionate about can bring you and your spouse closer.What you are passionate about should be able to bring you closer and not further from each other.And what your partner is passionate about shouldn’t dominate their life to an extent that it brings disharmony in marriage.Pray that your passions may be able to bring you closer and not drift you apart.May your jobs not come in the way of your marriage.

2.Eros-sexual love
This is the sexual love. It is acceptable only within the confines of marriage.It’s completely sensual and based on feelings.Feelings rise and fall so it cannot be a base for a good marriage.We will go deeper into this type of love tomorrow.For now pray that you and your fh/husband may get understanding of eros love according to the manual not what people think or say.

3.Phileo-friendship love
This is love one has for their friend. This is the type of love David and Jonathan had for each other.In marriage,phileo love creates an environment for the couple to share their deepest thoughts and inmost selves and allows them to have fun and be free around each other. It produces a strong bond between people.|“The greatest love people can show is to die for their friends. You are my friends if you do what I tell you to do.”‭John‬ ‭15:13-14‬ ‭ERV‬‬| Pray that your fh/husband may be your friend.This may sound like a light prayer but it is very important as some couples don’t have phileo love in their marriage.

4.Storge-family love
This is the love of family relationships-the love of parents toward their children and that of children toward their parents.It is also the love that can be found in extended families.It is also the love between brethren in the family of God. In the Bible this love is found in multiple instances,for example,the love Abraham had for his son Isaac Genesis 22.2,the love found in Martha and Mary who lost their brother Lazarus(John 11),the love Noah had for his wife and children,just to mention a few.|“Friends love through all kinds of weather, and families stick together in all kinds of trouble.”Proverbs‬ ‭17:17‬ ‭MSG‬‬|

5.Agape-God’s love
This is the love that was revealed through Jesus Christ,and is given freely to all who become the children of God by faith.|“Yes, God loved the world so much that he gave his only Son, so that everyone who believes in him would not be lost but have eternal life.’’‭John‬ ‭3:16‬ ‭ERV‬‬| It’s the love God has for His people as well as the love His people give back to Him.It is also the kind of love that the people of God are commanded to have toward one another,the only love not based on feelings.It’s unconditional and has no expectations.It’s the 1st Corinthians 13 type of love and God alone is the source of it and apart from Him,one cannot agape love.It doesn’t require an emotion to function.It’s based on a decision to follow what the Word says and drawing the strength to love this way from your relationship with Christ,and not how you feel or how your partner makes you feel.It is a self-giving,sacrificial love that is not selfish but rather pours itself for the sake of others. Seeing that marriage is modeled after the relationship between Christ and the church,husbands are told to love their wives with this kind of sacrificial,selfless love,the one we prayed about yesterday.|“Husbands, love your wives the same as Christ loved the church and gave his life for it.”Ephesians‬ ‭5:25|

All these types of love must be present and working together in a marriage all the time.One or two without the other(s) is incomplete.
Phileo love alone is too general for marriage,if a married couple feel the same toward each other as they do toward their friends,their marriage is headed for trouble.
Marriage without agape is chaotic and selfish and is usually full of quarrels.
Marriage without phileo leads to a wicked husband or an unkind wife and is boring.
Marriage without eros usually strains the relationship of the couple and leads to adultery.Such marriages are very common among Christians as some couples are too religious and end up having a boring eros love.
Marriage with only eros love is usually short-lived going as far as the physical attraction and what drew the people together in the first place.
A marriage with one or the two people too passionate about their jobs,sport etc falls apart as they never find time for each other.
A marriage with one or both of the partners focusing more on their parents,children or friends brings disharmony in the family.

It’s very important to find the balance and make sure all these types of love are present and balanced in a marriage with Agape being the backbone.Understand that all the other types of love are not sufficient base upon which a meaningful and lasting relationship can be built.When properly expressed though,they can be beautiful expressions of the true love,agape,but not one of them by itself is good enough.

Pray that you and your fh/husband may be able to have all these types of love present and well distributed in your marriage.Draw prayer points from this,there are many prayers that you can get to pray for your marriage and your fh/husband.

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Day9/31; Loving husband

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After knowing the love of the Father,can a husband love himself and only after loving himself can he love you,his wife.According to the manual,how is the husband supposed to love his wife?The bible says husbands should love their wives the way Christ loved the church.How did Christ love the church?|“As for husbands, love your wives just like Christ loved the church and gave himself for her. He did this to make her holy by washing her in a bath of water with the word. He did this to present himself with a splendid church, one without any sort of stain or wrinkle on her clothes, but rather one that is holy and blameless. That’s how husbands ought to love their wives—in the same way as they do their own bodies. Anyone who loves his wife loves himself.”Ephesians‬ ‭5:25-28‬ ‭CEB‬‬|So a husband is to love his wife sacrificially.This means he will sacrifice for you.He would rather be uncomfortable for you to be comfortable.He will do everything possible to see you are provided for.He would rather get hurt trying to protect you.And this even goes to self control,which is the most important.He will control his sexual desire and be faithful to you.This is like beating his own body for you.This is sacrificial love and this is how a husband is to love his wife.He is to sacrifice his own desires to be faithful to you.|“You ask why he no longer accepts them. It is because he knows you have broken your promise to the wife you married when you were young. She was your partner, and you have broken your promise to her, although you promised before God that you would be faithful to her. Didn’t God make you one body and spirit with her? What was his purpose in this? It was that you should have children who are truly God’s people. So make sure that none of you breaks his promise to his wife. “I hate divorce,” says the Lord God of Israel. “I hate it when one of you does such a cruel thing to his wife. Make sure that you do not break your promise to be faithful to your wife.”Malachi‬ ‭2:14-16‬ ‭GNT‬‬|Christ endured the cross for the joy set before him.He was despised,beaten and spit on but He endured because He loved us so much and He knew the results would be beautiful-a holy,blameless church.He didn’t give up on the church,he died for us whilst we were sinners.Your husband doesn’t have to wait for you to be perfect to sacrifice for you,he ought to sacrifice even when you are at your worst.Same applies to us women,we don’t have to wait for our husbands to be perfect in order to love them and submit to them.So the husband’s sacrificial love for his wife is a kind of submission because no man can love his wife this way if he is not submitting to her in reverence to the Lord.

Ephesians 5:25-28 also tells us that Christ presented the church holy,blameless without any sort of stain or wrinkle,in the same way your fh/husband ought to present you before himself and before others. He should be able to show you off and be proud of you,even with your flaws. As he loves himself,so must he love you.

Pray that your fh/husband may love you the way Christ loved the church.May he be able to sacrifice for you.May he even be bold enough to be faithful to you even in this world where people believe it’s normal for a man to not be faithful to his wife because he is a man.Even some women think this is acceptable,women,it’s time to use the manual not what people say or think.Just because so many people think it’s right doesn’t make it right.What matters is what God says.Pray that your fh/husband may operate by the principles of the Word of God.Pray that he draws the strength to love you sacrificially from his relationship with Christ because he surely can’t do it by his own strength no matter how much he loves you. Pray that your fh/husband may be able to love you just as he loves himself. If he has insecurities or difficulty loving himself pray that he be able to overcome that by the strength he received through the grace of Jesus Christ so that he comes to a place where he loves himself so that he is able to love you,and love others also.

For those courting,if your boyfriend cannot wait to have sex in marriage,how sure are you he will be able to sacrifice for you by controlling his sexual desire and remain faithful when you are married?If he cannot control himself now,he won’t also be able to control himself in marriage and he ends up having multiple sexual partners.And for some girls who are not having sex before marriage but are okay with their boyfriends having sex with other women,they say,well he is preserving me but if he preserving you then he should sacrificially preserve you because there is no sacrifice if he is still getting sex somewhere else.Its not only wise to flee from sexual immorality but also from such relationships.If we are to follow the manual,the Word,then we have to consider marrying someone who sacrificially loves us.Its very important.

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Day 8/31: Setting the love life priority right

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If you’ve noticed,we prayed about the base/skeleton of a good marriage.This week we will be focusing on love.So we will dig right into it by setting the right love priority that will make your marriage work.Your prayer for today for your fh/husband is that he gets his love life in the right order. What is the proper order for love?First,it’s learning to love God with everything that’s in you.Secondly,it’s learning to love yourself.If you don’t know how to love God,you will never know how to love yourself and you cannot love your neighbor as yourself until you learn to love yourself.This is made clear in Matthew‬ ‭22:37-39‬ |“He replied, ” You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your being, and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: You must love your neighbor as you love yourself.”‬|.Note very well that unless your fh/husband understands God’s love for Him,spends time cultivating and developing a personal relationship with the Father,he cannot learn to love himself and cannot love you sacrificially like Christ loved the church.So pray that your fh/husband may cultivate his personal relationship with Christ and let God teach him how to love himself and only then can he know to develop proper love with you. Pray against idolization in your marriage.Couples may start idolizing their marriage or each other and exclude God as the centre of their marriage and their lives.God should be your fh/husband’s number one then you.May he love God more than he loves you,may he put God before you. Pray for yourself too for those who are married.You may have put your husband before God and valued him more than you value God.Pray that the Holy Spirit may help you set the love priority right. For those not yet married,pray that you may know you are complete in Christ.You don’t need a husband to make you whole.Pray that you may not idolize marriage to the point that you don’t have joy as a single person.You shouldn’t be looking forward to marriage to bring you joy,you should be full of joy now and go into marriage with that understanding.Pray that your future husband may know he is complete in Christ and doesn’t need you to be complete. For those who desire to be married but have passed the age they were planning to get married.This may be hard time for you as you may start feeling lonely but spend more and more time with God so you don’t end up looking for a mate in order to feel whole.Spend time with God and let him teach you how to love yourself so you can also love your future husband in the proper order.May this waiting time not make you idolize marriage and may it not make you desire a husband more than you desire God. It is very important for those not yet married to not just pray and not put themselves out to be found by their mates.You sure cannot pray and not act on your prayers.In other words,watch and pray,a good man may pass because you are just waiting for the ‘perfect one’.Remember these prayers are not for getting a perfect husband for there is no such.These prayers help you position yourself for a good marriage and help us get into marriage with the right attitude and motive having studied the manual.We are not praying for perfect men but for men with whom we will be able to be helpers. Pray that your fh/husband may understand the Father’s love for him.May the Holy Spirit enlighten the eyes of his heart to see how much God loves him.God loves him so much and he is pleased with him.Its when a man understands the love of God for him that he gets to walk in life with confidence and have high self esteem,with all these flowing from his relationship with Christ. The end.

Day6/31: The just shall live by faith

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|But my righteous one will live by faith…Hebrews 10.38|This is a scripture that’s very common,widely used by people and quoted.Jesus is the author and finisher of our faith,Its not enough to start with Jesus and then just put him aside and live our lives,finishing with with our own effort and righteousness.Its about starting with faith in Jesus,living,moving in Him and finishing in Him.So the just/righteous(those who are born again) should continue living every part of their life in faith in Jesus.This is something worth understanding and using in a marriage.We need to depend on Jesus and believe Him to lead us in our marriages.Yesterday we prayed about the husband being the head of the family and the wife being a helper.But how can a husband be the head of his wife when he is not letting Christ be his head and not living by faith in Him.“Now I want you to know that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is the man, and the head of Christ is God 1 Corinthians‬ ‭11:3‬ ‭CEB|One can only be able to lead his family in the way of God if he is allowing Christ to also lead him.It would be pointless to try and be a helper to a husband who is not headed by Christ.How can He know the will of God for his life and find his purpose if he doesn’t spend time with the Father.Pray that your fh/husband desires to spend time with God and allow Christ to lead him.

A man is to lead his family spiritually,pray that your fh/husband may be able to lead your family in bringing your children to Christ.Pray that even if he has never had a role model in his life(most men didn’t see their fathers leading the family spiritually),someone who mentored him on how to lead his family,that he may look to Christ as his example.

A man is to lead his family financially.He should have a plan on how he will be able to provide for his family.Pray that he may get multimillionaire ideas.There are so many things that haven’t been discovered that can make him rich.Pray that God drops these ideas in his head.Pray that may he have a plan and be willing to work towards achieving his goals.

A man is to lead his wife to be the best God created her to be.He is to bring out the best in her.He is to lead her to achieve her dreams and not bring her down.He is to nourish her and prepare her to achieve big things in life.Pray that your fh/husband won’t feel intimidated by your success but actually celebrate you.Pray that he may be secure in Christ.|“As for husbands, love your wives just like Christ loved the church and gave himself for her. He did this to make her holy by washing her in a bath of water with the word. He did this to present himself with a splendid church, one without any sort of stain or wrinkle on her clothes, but rather one that is holy and blameless. That’s how husbands ought to love their wives—in the same way as they do their own bodies. Anyone who loves his wife loves himself. No one ever hates his own body, but feeds it and takes care of it just like Christ does for the church because we are parts of his body.”Ephesians‬ ‭5:25-30‬|

Pray that your fh/husband may spend time with God up to a point that his desires are God’s will for his life.When a person spends time with God,he starts seeing things the way God sees them,God puts desires in him and he is able to see his desires manifest because God grants him the desires of his heart.|“Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He will give you the desires and secret petitions of your heart.”Psalm‬ ‭37:4‬ ‭AMPC‬‬|

Pray that your husband may be able to depend on Christ as his head and cast all the pressures that come with being the head of the family to Christ.May he not depend on his own strength and effort to lead but may he depend on Christ.|“Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God [set aside self-righteous pride], so that He may exalt you [to a place of honor in His service] at the appropriate time, casting all your cares [all your anxieties, all your worries, and all your concerns, once and for all] on Him, for He cares about you [with deepest affection, and watches over you very carefully].1 PETER‬ ‭5:6-7‬ ‭AMP‬‬|

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Day5/31: God-given responsibilities in marriage

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To have something function at its best,one has to use the manual.In order for a couple to enjoy marriage the way God intended when He brought the marriage institution,they have to follow the manual and see how God designed it to function.With the understanding that God’s Word is authoritative,we can safely say it’s the manual and we can draw out God’s design for marriage.

For the fish to survive and live at their best,they have to stay in the environment from which they were created.|“And God said, Let the waters bring forth abundantly and swarm with living creatures, and let birds fly over the earth in the open expanse of the heavens.”Genesis‬ ‭1:20‬ ‭AMPC‬| Fish were created from the water so they function best in the water.Humans were created in the image of God so to function at their best,they have to be connected to God and stay in His presence which is the environment they they were created from.|“God said, Let Us [Father, Son, and Holy Spirit] make mankind in Our image, after Our likeness, and let them have complete authority over the fish of the sea, the birds of the air, the [tame] beasts, and over all of the earth, and over everything that creeps upon the earth. [Ps. 104:30; Heb. 1:2; 11:3.] So God created man in His own image, in the image and likeness of God He created him; male and female He created them. [Col. 3:9, 10; James 3:8, 9.] And God blessed them and said to them, Be fruitful, multiply, and fill the earth, and subdue it [using all its vast resources in the service of God and man]; and have dominion over the fish of the sea, the birds of the air, and over every living creature that moves upon the earth.”Genesis‬ ‭1:26-28‬ ‭AMPC‬|
This also applies to women,for women to function at their best they have to stay in the environment from which they were created.Women were created from a man’s side so a married woman has got to stay by her husband’s side to function at her best.|“And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam; and while he slept, He took one of his ribs or a part of his side and closed up the [place with] flesh. And the rib or part of his side which the Lord God had taken from the man He built up and made into a woman, and He brought her to the man.”Genesis‬ ‭2:21-22‬ ‭AMPC‬‬| God did not create a woman from a man’s head that he should rule her,or from his feet that she should be stepped on and be his slave,but rather from his side that they work side by side and dominate and rule over the earth,sea and the air together.

In order to create the best environment for success and potential release of the two,God gave them different responsibilities in their union.These responsibilities were given to be carried out in the humans’ suitable environment,the presence of God.Ephesians 5 starts by talking about being filled with the Spirit submitting to one another in the Lord and then it divides into specific responsibilities.|“And do not get drunk with wine, for that is debauchery, but be filled with the Spirit, addressing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody to the Lord with your heart, giving thanks always and for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.”| Ephesians‬ ‭5:18-21‬| The man was given the responsibility of headship and loving his wife the way Christ loved the church.The woman was given the responsibility of being a helper to her husband and submitting to him.

It’s very important to understand why God gave men the responsibility of heading his family.It wasn’t because men are physically stronger than women for both sexes are strong in an equal but different way,men are stronger from the waist up,they can carry heavy objects easily and women are stronger from the waist down,they can bear the pressure and pain of giving birth.It cannot be because men are smarter than women,they carry the same mental capacity.The headship responsibility wasn’t given to Adam because Eve was inferior to him in any way,weaker(their spirits and souls had been created the same way and were equal in power and authority)but because Adam possessed information Eve didn’t have(i.e knowledge about the not eating the fruit of knowing good and evil) since Adam was brought to the earth before Eve.|“The Lord God gave him this command: “You may eat from any tree in the garden. But you must not eat from the tree that gives knowledge about good and evil. If you eat fruit from that tree, on that day you will certainly die!”Genesis‬ ‭2:16-17‬| So understanding that the headship responsibility was given to Adam because of knowledge not strength,his sex etc is very important in effectively carrying out of the man’s and woman’s responsibilities without abuse and incorrect use of the manual.In God’s design,headship responsibility given to men in marriage is not for making the women feel inferior,unimportant,feel like the weaker sex or dumb.The husband does not rule his wife but exercises headship.As head of the family he leads the family,not as a dictator,but with love,grace,wisdom and knowledge under the lordship of Christ.

Pray that your family may be filled with the Spirit and be submitting to one another out of reverence for God.Pray that your future husband/husband understands this truth,that him being given the headship responsibility doesn’t mean he should rule over you but that he should rule with you and lead your family in the way of Christ.Pray that with this understanding you may be able to submit to him.Ephesians 5.18-33

We will on another day go deeper into understanding these responsibilities so for now,pray that the Holy Spirit enlightens you to the truth we shared today and prepare your heart to receive a deeper understanding of your responsibilities and your husband’s responsibilities in marriage.

Many times,these responsibilities have been mistaught in the body of Christ or teachings on them have been generally negative towards women,causing some people to think God doesn’t love women.Pray against thoughts of inferiority that may come as a result of misunderstanding the concept of submission.Much of the traditional teachings on submission are based on a gross misunderstanding of the Scriptures, which has led to devastating results in the lives and relationships of countless women.Some women have stopped pursuing their dreams thinking they are doing good to submit,this is saddening as God wants to see women rising to their fullest potential.Pray against all this and pray the same for your fh/husband.

The end.

Day5/31 days of prayer for your future husband/husband.
05/05/17

God-given responsibilities in marriage

To have something function at its best,one has to use the manual.In order for a couple to enjoy marriage the way God intended when He brought the marriage institution,they have to follow the manual and see how God designed it to function.With the understanding that God’s Word is authoritative,we can safely say it’s the manual and we can draw out God’s design for marriage.

For the fish to survive and live at their best,they have to stay in the environment from which they were created.|“And God said, Let the waters bring forth abundantly and swarm with living creatures, and let birds fly over the earth in the open expanse of the heavens.”Genesis‬ ‭1:20‬ ‭AMPC‬| Fish were created from the water so they function best in the water.Humans were created in the image of God so to function at their best,they have to be connected to God and stay in His presence which is the environment they they were created from.|“God said, Let Us [Father, Son, and Holy Spirit] make mankind in Our image, after Our likeness, and let them have complete authority over the fish of the sea, the birds of the air, the [tame] beasts, and over all of the earth, and over everything that creeps upon the earth. [Ps. 104:30; Heb. 1:2; 11:3.] So God created man in His own image, in the image and likeness of God He created him; male and female He created them. [Col. 3:9, 10; James 3:8, 9.] And God blessed them and said to them, Be fruitful, multiply, and fill the earth, and subdue it [using all its vast resources in the service of God and man]; and have dominion over the fish of the sea, the birds of the air, and over every living creature that moves upon the earth.”Genesis‬ ‭1:26-28‬ ‭AMPC‬|
This also applies to women,for women to function at their best they have to stay in the environment from which they were created.Women were created from a man’s side so a married woman has got to stay by her husband’s side to function at her best.|“And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam; and while he slept, He took one of his ribs or a part of his side and closed up the [place with] flesh. And the rib or part of his side which the Lord God had taken from the man He built up and made into a woman, and He brought her to the man.”Genesis‬ ‭2:21-22‬ ‭AMPC‬‬| God did not create a woman from a man’s head that he should rule her,or from his feet that she should be stepped on and be his slave,but rather from his side that they work side by side and dominate and rule over the earth,sea and the air together.

In order to create the best environment for success and potential release of the two,God gave them different responsibilities in their union.These responsibilities were given to be carried out in the humans’ suitable environment,the presence of God.Ephesians 5 starts by talking about being filled with the Spirit submitting to one another in the Lord and then it divides into specific responsibilities.|“And do not get drunk with wine, for that is debauchery, but be filled with the Spirit, addressing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody to the Lord with your heart, giving thanks always and for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.”| Ephesians‬ ‭5:18-21‬| The man was given the responsibility of headship and loving his wife the way Christ loved the church.The woman was given the responsibility of being a helper to her husband and submitting to him.

It’s very important to understand why God gave men the responsibility of heading his family.It wasn’t because men are physically stronger than women for both sexes are strong in an equal but different way,men are stronger from the waist up,they can carry heavy objects easily and women are stronger from the waist down,they can bear the pressure and pain of giving birth.It cannot be because men are smarter than women,they carry the same mental capacity.The headship responsibility wasn’t given to Adam because Eve was inferior to him in any way,weaker(their spirits and souls had been created the same way and were equal in power and authority)but because Adam possessed information Eve didn’t have(i.e knowledge about the not eating the fruit of knowing good and evil) since Adam was brought to the earth before Eve.|“The Lord God gave him this command: “You may eat from any tree in the garden. But you must not eat from the tree that gives knowledge about good and evil. If you eat fruit from that tree, on that day you will certainly die!”Genesis‬ ‭2:16-17‬| So understanding that the headship responsibility was given to Adam because of knowledge not strength,his sex etc is very important in effectively carrying out of the man’s and woman’s responsibilities without abuse and incorrect use of the manual.In God’s design,headship responsibility given to men in marriage is not for making the women feel inferior,unimportant,feel like the weaker sex or dumb.The husband does not rule his wife but exercises headship.As head of the family he leads the family,not as a dictator,but with love,grace,wisdom and knowledge under the lordship of Christ.

Pray that your family may be filled with the Spirit and be submitting to one another out of reverence for God.Pray that your future husband/husband understands this truth,that him being given the headship responsibility doesn’t mean he should rule over you but that he should rule with you and lead your family in the way of Christ.Pray that with this understanding you may be able to submit to him.Ephesians 5.18-33

We will on another day go deeper into understanding these responsibilities so for now,pray that the Holy Spirit enlightens you to the truth we shared today and prepare your heart to receive a deeper understanding of your responsibilities and your husband’s responsibilities in marriage.

Many times,these responsibilities have been mistaught in the body of Christ or teachings on them have been generally negative towards women,causing some people to think God doesn’t love women.Pray against thoughts of inferiority that may come as a result of misunderstanding the concept of submission.Much of the traditional teachings on submission are based on a gross misunderstanding of the Scriptures, which has led to devastating results in the lives and relationships of countless women.Some women have stopped pursuing their dreams thinking they are doing good to submit,this is saddening as God wants to see women rising to their fullest potential.Pray against all this and pray the same for your fh/husband.

The end.

Day 4/31: Correct interpretation of the Word.

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I appeal to you, brothers, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that all of you agree with one another so that there may be no divisions among you and that you may be perfectly united in mind and thought” (1 Cor. 1:10)|.From this scripture,we can see and conclude that Christians may disagree with one another and not walk in agreement causing disharmony and disunity in mind and thought.What brings about differences and so much division in the body of Christ?It all comes from how we interpret scripture,whether or not we correctly divide the Word of truth and mainly from what we understand about righteousness /how one gets salvation.|“For everyone who lives on milk is [doctrinally inexperienced and] unskilled in the word of righteousness, since he is a spiritual infant.”HEBREWS‬ ‭5:13‬ ‭AMP‬‬|In a marriage,differences in doctrines may make it very challenging, even difficult for a couple to walk together in agreement. No matter how spiritual they may be, or how much prayer or fasting they have done, or even how full of the Spirit they are, they will face daunting obstacles in their relationship as they seek to walk in harmony. It is not impossible—the Spirit of God can bring harmony of mind and spirit—but it is difficult.So it’s very important to search for the truth from the scriptures as a couple on these fundamentals in our Christian faith.

Here are some of the most important doctrines in Christianity that a couple needs to agree on otherwise it’s really difficult to walk together.Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so? (Amos 3:3)

1.God is three in one or a Trinity (Matthew 3:16-17, 28:19; John 14:16-17; 2 Corinthians 13:14; Acts 2:32-33, John 10:30,17:11, 21; 1 Peter 1:2).
2.Jesus is fully God and was fully man on the earth (Colossians 2:9; 1 Timothy 2:5; Hebrews 4:15; 2 Corinthians 5:21).
3.Second coming of Jesus Acts 1.11
4.Salvation is only by grace through faith in Christ alone.“For with the heart a person believes [in Christ as Savior] resulting in his justification [that is, being made righteous–being freed of the guilt of sin and made acceptable to God]; and with the mouth he acknowledges and confesses [his faith openly], resulting in and confirming [his] salvation.” ROMANS‬ ‭10:10‬ ‭AMP‬‬
5.All scripture from the Bible is authoritative,God-breathed and inspired by the Holy Spirit.(2 Timothy 3:16; 2 Peter 1:21).

What do you believe concerning each and every one of the five basic doctrines in Christianity?Take a moment to check what you believe for these doctrines one by one.Take a few minutes to pray about it,feel free to tell God what you think and then ask Him to help you know the truth.Ask Him to reveal these truths to your future husband/husband and pray for the desire in him to find the truth.Take your time studying each doctrine and read the scriptures written.Meditate on them throughout the day and ask the Holy Spirit to help you understand.You can do a detailed study on these doctrines over a period of time by most importantly studying the Word yourself or as a couple and also ask other believers and teachers of the Word what you don’t understand.

Pray that as a couple you may desire sound doctrine and not just want to hear what makes you comfortable and satisfy your own desires.|For the time will come when people will not tolerate sound doctrine and accurate instruction [that challenges them with God’s truth]; but wanting to have their ears tickled [with something pleasing], they will accumulate for themselves [many] teachers [one after another, chosen] to satisfy their own desires and to support the errors they hold, and will turn their ears away from the truth and will wander off into myths and man-made fictions [and will accept the unacceptable].”2 TIMOTHY‬ 4.3-4 | Pray that the Holy Spirit gives you understanding of scripture and teach you how to correctly interpret the Word.|“Make an effort to present yourself to God as a tried-and-true worker, who doesn’t need to be ashamed but is one who interprets the message of truth correctly.”2 Timothy‬ ‭2:15‬ ‭CEB| You can only know the truth by revelation by the Holy Spirit.|“I have many more things to say to you, but you cannot bear [to hear] them now. But when He, the Spirit of Truth, comes, He will guide you into all the truth [full and complete truth]. For He will not speak on His own initiative, but He will speak whatever He hears [from the Father–the message regarding the Son], and He will disclose to you what is to come [in the future].”JOHN‬ ‭16:12-13‬| ‭If your husband is of a different denomination from yours,pray that the different doctrines in your churches may not bring disharmony and division in your marriage.

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Day 3/31: The authority of the Word of God

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31 days of prayer for your future husband/husband

Yesterday we prayed about following commandments in the Word with understanding.Its good to know that it may be hard to obey what the Word says when you don’t believe its authoritative.As people,we tend to be selective when it comes to what we should obey based on our strengths,weaknesses,capabilities,situations,etc.For example we usually have no problem believing the Word of God when it comes to prosperity,we believe God prospers us but when it comes to obeying what the Word says about submission or giving,fornication,teachings about the Holy Spirit etc,we have a problem.This is usually because of what we grew up being taught,what people around say and some teachers of the Word teach.We should note very well that some doctrines have been mistaught in the church/body of Christ so we should get in the habit of studying the Bible ourselves and finding the truth not just wait for pastors,teachers and preachers to preach to you.It is not duty of pastors to study the Word for us,we ought to study it too.

Here are some scriptures on why the Word of God is authoritative
1.“All Scripture is God-breathed [given by divine inspiration] and is profitable for instruction, for conviction [of sin], for correction [of error and restoration to obedience], for training in righteousness [learning to live in conformity to God’s will, both publicly and privately–behaving honorably with personal integrity and moral courage] so that the man of Godi.e all believers man,woman or child) may be complete and proficient, outfitted and thoroughly equipped for every good work”‭2 TIMOTHY‬ ‭3:16‬-17 AMP
2. “For the word of God is living and active and full of power [making it operative, energizing, and effective]. It is sharper than any two-edged sword, penetrating as far as the division of the soul and spirit [the completeness of a person], and of both joints and marrow [the deepest parts of our nature], exposing and judging the very thoughts and intentions of the heart.”
‭‭HEBREWS‬ ‭4:12‬ ‭AMP‬‬
3.“Oh, how I love Your law! It is my meditation all the day. Your commandments make me wiser than my enemies, For Your words are always with me. I have better understanding and deeper insight than all my teachers [because of Your word], For Your testimonies are my meditation. I understand more than the aged [who have not observed Your precepts], Because I have observed and kept Your precepts. I have restrained my feet from every evil way, That I may keep Your word. I have not turned aside from Your ordinances, For You Yourself have taught me. How sweet are Your words to my taste, Sweeter than honey to my mouth! From Your precepts I get understanding; Therefore I hate every false way. Your word is a lamp to my feet And a light to my path.”
‭‭PSALM‬ ‭119:97-105‬ ‭AMP‬‬
4.“So faith comes from hearing [what is told], and what is heard comes by the [preaching of the] message concerning Christ.”
‭‭ROMANS‬ ‭10:17‬ ‭AMP‬‬
5.“If anyone thinks and claims that he is a prophet [a true spokesman for God] or spiritually astute [filled with and energized by the Holy Spirit], let him recognize that the things which I write to you are the Lord’s commandment. If anyone does not recognize this [that it is a command of the Lord], he is not recognized [by God].”
‭‭1 CORINTHIANS‬ ‭14:37-38‬ ‭AMP‬‬
6.“A short time ago God chose you to follow him. He chose you through his grace that came through Christ. But now I am amazed that you are already turning away and believing something different from the Good News we told you. There is no other message that is the Good News, but some people are confusing you. They want to change the Good News about Christ. We told you the true Good News message. So anyone who tells you a different message should be condemned—even if it’s one of us or even an angel from heaven! I said this before. Now I say it again: You have already accepted the Good News. Anyone who tells you another way to be saved should be condemned! Now do you think I am trying to make people accept me? No, God is the one I am trying to please. Am I trying to please people? If I wanted to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.”
‭‭Galatians‬ ‭1:6-10‬ ‭ERV‬‬
7.“And there is another reason why we always give thanks to God. When we brought you God’s message, you heard it and accepted it, not as a message from human beings but as God’s message, which indeed it is. For God is at work in you who believe.”
‭‭1 Thessalonians‬ ‭2:13‬ ‭GNB‬‬
8.“Then Moses said to the people, “Obey all the laws that I am teaching you, and you will live and occupy the land which the LORD, the God of your ancestors, is giving you. Do not add anything to what I command you, and do not take anything away. Obey the commands of the LORD your God that I have given you.”
‭‭Deuteronomy‬ ‭4:1-2‬ GNB
9.“In the beginning the Word already existed; the Word was with God, and the Word was God. From the very beginning the Word was with God. Through him God made all things; not one thing in all creation was made without him. The Word was the source of life, and this life brought light to humanity. The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has never put it out.”
‭‭John‬ ‭1:1-5‬ ‭GNB‬‬
10.“Be sure that the book of the Law is always read in your worship. Study it day and night, and make sure that you obey everything written in it. Then you will be prosperous and successful.”
‭‭Joshua‬ ‭1:8‬ GNB

Study the scriptures above and let the Word sink in your heart by meditation.Its not enough to know the scriptures and be able to quote them,go deeper than that,think over them throughout the day,ask the Holy Spirit to help you understand what the scripture mean,ask why God was saying that,to who and when and study the scriptures to understand not just read so you can say today I read my bible.|“Study and be eager and do your utmost to present yourself to God approved (tested by trial), a workman who has no cause to be ashamed, correctly analyzing and accurately dividing [rightly handling and skillfully teaching] the Word of Truth.”
‭‭2 Timothy‬ ‭2:15‬ AMPC |Pray that you and your husband may be able to understand and accept the authority in the Word of God and may there be a desire to find the truth from the Word not just follow what someone said.Pray for the desire to study and know the Word as a couple and be able to apply the Word in your marriage and family.Tomorrow,we will dig deep into this.

The end.