Day13/31: Storge 2-family love

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Yesterday we prayed for husbands who will be fathers that express storge in form of affection.Today we are focusing on expression of storge in form of mentoring.

A home is somewhere children are trained,groomed and prepared for life.Parents have a big role in mentoring their children.A mentor is a person who gives an example of Christlikeness.So the environment created at home is to encourage children to give their lives to Christ.|“Didn’t God create you and your wife to become like one person? And why did he do this? It was so you would have children, and then lead them to become God’s people. Don’t ever be unfaithful to your wife.”Malachi‬ ‭2:15‬|

It is at home that talents and gifts are to be discovered and celebrated and a child’s potential is realized.Pray that you and your fh/husband may be able to encourage your children in their gifts and talents.Pray that they may feel free to be who they are in the image of God.May you be able to mentor them to become the best they can be in life.Some parents compare their children and show favour towards one,this is a recipe for disaster.Pray that you may love,respect and celebrate your children’s differences.

Pray that you and your spouse may be able to balance discipline and love toward your children.May he be a good leader of your family as the head and may your children obey him with respect.|“He must be a good leader of his own family. This means that his children obey him with full respect. If a man does not know how to lead his own family, he will not be able to take care of God’s church.”‭‭1 Timothy‬ ‭3:4-5‬ ‭ERV‬‬|

Pray that your husband may be able to lead your family spiritually in bringing up your children.May he be able to guide them and lead them in Agape love.|“Fathers, don’t exasperate your children by coming down hard on them. Take them by the hand and lead them in the way of the Master.”Ephesians‬ ‭6:4‬ ‭MSG‬‬|

It is at home that girls are taught how to be ladies and boys are taught to be men.Pray that you and your fh/husband may be able to train your them.Pray that your husband may take the role as the father to show his sons how to be princes and show his daughters how they are supposed to be treated as princesses.May he also be able to treat you with respect like a queen and as a fellow-heirs in the new life in Christ.|“In the same way you husbands must live with your wives with the proper understanding that they are more delicate than you. Treat them with respect, because they also will receive, together with you, God’s gift of life. Do this so that nothing will interfere with your prayers.”1 Peter‬ ‭3:7‬ ‭GNT‬‬|

Some people may not have experienced storge love physically in their family but remember God sets up the lonely in families.|“You find families for those who are lonely. You set prisoners free and let them prosper…Psalms‬ ‭68:6‬| The church fulfills the need of people that missed physical family and they can get storge from the spiritual family in Christ.We are family in Christ Jesus.There are fathers and mothers,brothers and sisters.|Titus 2.2-8|The believers can feel up this gap in your life and you feel fulfilled just like you had a physical family.|“Do not rebuke an older man, but appeal to him as if he were your father.Treat the younger men as your brothers, the older women as mothers, and the younger women as sisters, with all purity.”1 Timothy‬ ‭5:1-2‬ ‭GNT‬‬|
So pray that if you or your husband did not have a physical family expressing storge,may God set you up in a family with believers who will storge love you.

*NB:Tomorrow,there won’t be any post.Its a reflection Sunday,you can use the day to reflect on what we were praying and meditating on throughout the week.

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Day 12/31: Storge-family love

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Storge is family love.God created humans in such a way that they desire to be part of a family and when God designed family,He put a special bond that binds the relatives together and this natural bond is called storge.It’s the bond that keeps siblings together even after an ugly fight.

However,most people feel this love but they never express it.It is especially difficult for most men to express storge.Most men feel like when they express love,they are not man enough,they are too soft and they are not masculine.But where did this mindset come from?Clearly,it’s not there in the Word.The bible talks about how Jesus wanted the little children to come to him.These children literally sat close to Him and some were even on His laps.Jesus is the perfect example and role model for all men.Jesus expressed his love towards children.He showed them affection.

The other hindrance to most men showing affection to their children is love has been reduced to sexuality/eros love such that they end up feeling like it’s wrong to express storge in form of affection(hugs,kisses,gifts,affirmation).Expression of storge towards children,wives,husbands and relatives is biblical.
Take a moment to read the following scriptures:
1.Hugs,kisses and embraces
|“But Jacob himself went on ahead of them, and he bowed toward the ground seven times as he approached his brother. But Esau ran to meet him, embraced him, hugged his neck, and kissed him. Then they both wept.Genesis‬ ‭33:3-4‬ ‭NET|
|“Then his father Isaac said to him, “Come here and kiss me, my son.” So Jacob went over and kissed him. When Isaac caught the scent of his clothing, he blessed him, saying, “Yes, my son smells like the scent of an open field which the LORD has blessed.”‭‭Genesis‬ ‭27:26-27‬ ‭NET|
2.Gifts
|“Jacob stayed there that night. Then he sent as a gift to his brother Esau two hundred female goats and twenty male goats, two hundred ewes and twenty rams, thirty female camels with their young, forty cows and ten bulls, and twenty female donkeys and ten male donkeys.”Genesis‬ ‭32:13-15‬ ‭NET|
3.Affirmation and praise
|“Her children say good things about her. Her husband brags about her and says, “There are many good women, but you are the best.””Proverbs‬ ‭31:28-29‬ ‭ESV|

For some people,it’s hard for them to give or receive affection because they were deprived of storge when they were growing up.This tends to be a problem as they can’t give storge to their children.They end up showing their love in other forms like providing.Providing for the child is not enough,there is need to get involved in the child’s life-help them with their homework,spend time with them,go watch them play their favorite sport,attend their school events and cheer for them etc.Most fathers don’t take these seriously,pray for your husband that he be a father who expresses storge to your children.May they be free to talk to him,not just about serious issues like school but even silly stories children enjoy.Pray that your husband may not be ashamed to show affection towards you and your children.

Pray that if he was deprived of affection when he was young,he may learn from Jesus,it may not be easy for him but the Holy Spirit can teach him to express love.Pray that his experience may not affect how he fathers your children.Most times when storge is not fulfilled,people tend to feel lonely,rejected,empty etc.Pray against these in the name of Jesus.May he be free from all negativity that comes with the deprivation.

Intimate family relationships are among the most difficult things we must deal with as humans, because closeness leads to the exposure of who we really are, inside and out. To help us prepare for the intimacy demanded in marriage, we have a very short period in life that God seems to give us for practice.This period is the time we live with the families we were born in.Our families know our best and our worst.It is also of essence that we understand that not only do those closest to us get under our skin and irritate us, but they also have the power to wound us in a way no one can.It gets hard to be able to trust again.These wounds can be in the form of abuse-emotional,verbal,sexual etc.The scar the hurt leaves only needs Jesus to fix it and be able to trust and love again.Jesus is the only hope to being able to receive and give storge again.So pray for all couples around the world who have experienced this.If you know anyone or if you or your husband experienced this,pray that you experience God’s love so you may be able to receive and give love again.

Pray that in your family,you may be able to express storge in form of affection.

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Day11/31: Eros-Sexual love

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Yesterday we prayed about different types of love.Today we are focusing on Eros love.

Eros is sexual love.Sex is anything that is part of love making between two people and that arouses one or both of them.In our society,sex is equated to intercourse,but sex is much more than intercourse.Intercourse is just part of lovemaking.So a couple can have sex without having intercourse.The Bible says do not awaken love until it is time(the time is in marriage).The love being talked about here is eros love.So the Word is not talking about intercourse only but anything you can do that arouses eros love.|“Oh, let me warn you, sisters in Jerusalem: Don’t excite love, don’t stir it up, until the time is ripe—and you’re ready.”
‭‭Song of Solomon‬ ‭8:4 ‭MSG‬‬|

Although we live in a sex-saturated world where sex is talked about everywhere,on the tv,advertisements etc,much of the discussions of sex are based on dreams, fantasy, and human ideas rather than on truth, reality, and the wisdom of God.Its amazing how the church has contributed very little or nothing concerning sex yet our God is the One who designed it.We should be the ones who are able to speak confidently and wisely about sex than any other.Why are discussions on sex such a taboo in the church?Is it because of being shy,confused,ignorant,religious or taking sex as a non-spiritual subject?As believers let’s find the truth and be the ones to spread the truth on sex from the manual.Pray that you and your fh/husband may see sex as holy and clean as God sees it in marriage.Pray that you may desire to find the truth concerning this subject as a couple.

The subject of sex has been greatly misunderstood and one major misconception is that sex and love are inseparable.It is very important to note that love can exist without sex and in this world,sex can occur without love.So sex and love are not dependent on each other.Within the boundaries of marriage established by God,sex is an intimate and beautiful expression of love,but sex by itself is not love.Unlike true love-agape,eros love is completely sensual.It’s based on feelings and therefore rises and falls as feelings do.Pray that you and your fh/husband may not base your marriage on eros love.May you base your marriage on a constant and unconditional love,Agape.May your fh/husband value you and see you beyond eros love.May he be committed to you.

Pray that you don’t look at sex as a non-spiritual subject.It is very spiritual within the limits set by God.Many believers feel uncomfortable and feel it’s a taboo to understand this subject.But what’s wrong with understanding the subject of sex from the Word itself?The reason why sex is greatly misunderstood and abused in this world is because we the believers,are not open to talk about what God says about sex.We also end up using principles of the world when dealing with the sex subject instead of principles on the Word thus there is no difference between the believers and non-believers.Start looking for answers on this subject from the Word.Be free to study and know what the Word says about it.Even for single ladies,study and show yourself approved,a workman that need not to be ashamed.2 Timothy 2.15.People perish because of lack of knowledge,lack of knowledge doesn’t only mean not having the knowledge,it could also mean having the wrong knowledge.Many unmarried young people are having sex,they think it’s cool because they don’t have the right information about it(they have information from the world) and because they never studied about it from the manual.Today,make the decision to start finding the truth and be set free from the world’s view of sex.If you are having sex and you are not yet married,study on this subject from the Word and ask the Holy Spirit to help you understand.Once you get an understanding from the Word,once you know the truth,you’ll be set free.Get in the habit of studying the Word yourself and stop listening to people who condemn you.You are forgiven and if your heart condemns you,know that God is greater than your heart.God delights in showing mercy and mercy triumphs over judgment.

Appropriate and truly fulfilling sexual expression can occur only within the careful and specific limits God established in marriage.Outside marriage,there is trouble,guilt,shame,rejection,fear,sorrow,disappointment and heartache.Within the marriage,with the the limits established by God of one husband and one wife devoted to each other-there is great freedom,flexibility and joy.Pray against boredom,a monotonous sex life in your marriage,just because you are Christians doesn’t mean you should be tied down to a certain way thinking about sex.Pray that you may come out of the religious box and be able to enjoy the gift of sex in marriage. Why do we associate sex with dirt?Where does the mindset of thinking sex is dirty even in a marital context come from?These all come from the world’s view of sex and not the manual.Look,For Paul to write on the subject of sex and he was single,it shows that what he was writing was plainly by revelation.The Holy Spirit,yes the Holy Spirit who was revealing these things to him.The Holy Spirit is our helper even in understanding a widely misunderstood subject,sex.Ask the Holy Spirit to help you understand what the Word says on the subject of sex.Dont be shy to ask God questions,don’t be too religious to think it’s sin to want to understand the subject of sex.Sister,this is the truth that’s lacking in the body of Christ.Make a decision today to bring down those strongholds and pray that the Holy Spirit help you understand this.It is time for the church to start providing the right information about sex to the whole world.It’s all there in the manual.Pray that you and your fh/husband may understand this and pray you may be free from worldly wisdom concerning sex and start viewing sex as God views it.

Note well that Eros love alone is selfish and interested in personal gratification and not concerned with the other person.Alone,it is a sexual desire that’s out of control.A person driven by eros alone sees their partner as nothing more than a sex object.Pray that you and your spouse may see yourselves beyond eros love and that you may balance all the love types in your marriage with the base of Agape love.

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Day11/31: Eros-Sexual love

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Yesterday we prayed about different types of love.Today we are focusing on Eros love.

Eros is sexual love.Sex is anything that is part of love making between two people and that arouses one or both of them.In our society,sex is equated to intercourse,but sex is much more than intercourse.Intercourse is just part of lovemaking.So a couple can have sex without having intercourse.The Bible says do not awaken love until it is time(the time is in marriage).The love being talked about here is eros love.So the Word is not talking about intercourse only but anything you can do that arouses eros love.|“Oh, let me warn you, sisters in Jerusalem: Don’t excite love, don’t stir it up, until the time is ripe—and you’re ready.”
‭‭Song of Solomon‬ ‭8:4 ‭MSG‬‬|

Although we live in a sex-saturated world where sex is talked about everywhere,on the tv,advertisements etc,much of the discussions of sex are based on dreams, fantasy, and human ideas rather than on truth, reality, and the wisdom of God.Its amazing how the church has contributed very little or nothing concerning sex yet our God is the One who designed it.We should be the ones who are able to speak confidently and wisely about sex than any other.Why are discussions on sex such a taboo in the church?Is it because of being shy,confused,ignorant,religious or taking sex as a non-spiritual subject?As believers let’s find the truth and be the ones to spread the truth on sex from the manual.Pray that you and your fh/husband may see sex as holy and clean as God sees it in marriage.Pray that you may desire to find the truth concerning this subject as a couple.

The subject of sex has been greatly misunderstood and one major misconception is that sex and love are inseparable.It is very important to note that love can exist without sex and in this world,sex can occur without love.So sex and love are not dependent on each other.Within the boundaries of marriage established by God,sex is an intimate and beautiful expression of love,but sex by itself is not love.Unlike true love-agape,eros love is completely sensual.It’s based on feelings and therefore rises and falls as feelings do.Pray that you and your fh/husband may not base your marriage on eros love.May you base your marriage on a constant and unconditional love,Agape.May your fh/husband value you and see you beyond eros love.May he be committed to you.

Pray that you don’t look at sex as a non-spiritual subject.It is very spiritual within the limits set by God.Many believers feel uncomfortable and feel it’s a taboo to understand this subject.But what’s wrong with understanding the subject of sex from the Word itself?The reason why sex is greatly misunderstood and abused in this world is because we the believers,are not open to talk about what God says about sex.We also end up using principles of the world when dealing with the sex subject instead of principles on the Word thus there is no difference between the believers and non-believers.Start looking for answers on this subject from the Word.Be free to study and know what the Word says about it.Even for single ladies,study and show yourself approved,a workman that need not to be ashamed.2 Timothy 2.15.People perish because of lack of knowledge,lack of knowledge doesn’t only mean not having the knowledge,it could also mean having the wrong knowledge.Many unmarried young people are having sex,they think it’s cool because they don’t have the right information about it(they have information from the world) and because they never studied about it from the manual.Today,make the decision to start finding the truth and be set free from the world’s view of sex.If you are having sex and you are not yet married,study on this subject from the Word and ask the Holy Spirit to help you understand.Once you get an understanding from the Word,once you know the truth,you’ll be set free.Get in the habit of studying the Word yourself and stop listening to people who condemn you.You are forgiven and if your heart condemns you,know that God is greater than your heart.God delights in showing mercy and mercy triumphs over judgment.

Appropriate and truly fulfilling sexual expression can occur only within the careful and specific limits God established in marriage.Outside marriage,there is trouble,guilt,shame,rejection,fear,sorrow,disappointment and heartache.Within the marriage,with the the limits established by God of one husband and one wife devoted to each other-there is great freedom,flexibility and joy.Pray against boredom,a monotonous sex life in your marriage,just because you are Christians doesn’t mean you should be tied down to a certain way thinking about sex.Pray that you may come out of the religious box and be able to enjoy the gift of sex in marriage. Why do we associate sex with dirt?Where does the mindset of thinking sex is dirty even in a marital context come from?These all come from the world’s view of sex and not the manual.Look,For Paul to write on the subject of sex and he was single,it shows that what he was writing was plainly by revelation.The Holy Spirit,yes the Holy Spirit who was revealing these things to him.The Holy Spirit is our helper even in understanding a widely misunderstood subject,sex.Ask the Holy Spirit to help you understand what the Word says on the subject of sex.Dont be shy to ask God questions,don’t be too religious to think it’s sin to want to understand the subject of sex.Sister,this is the truth that’s lacking in the body of Christ.Make a decision today to bring down those strongholds and pray that the Holy Spirit help you understand this.It is time for the church to start providing the right information about sex to the whole world.It’s all there in the manual.Pray that you and your fh/husband may understand this and pray you may be free from worldly wisdom concerning sex and start viewing sex as God views it.

Note well that Eros love alone is selfish and interested in personal gratification and not concerned with the other person.Alone,it is a sexual desire that’s out of control.A person driven by eros alone sees their partner as nothing more than a sex object.Pray that you and your spouse may see yourselves beyond eros love and that you may balance all the love types in your marriage with the base of Agape love.

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Day10/31: Understanding love

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So many relationships today fail because of an inadequate understanding of love.Whats is the difference between loving food and loving your favourite football team.Loving your husband and loving your children?These surely can’t be the same kind of love.For a marriage to properly function,there should be understanding and a balance of these different types of love.English is quite limited in words unlike other languages such as Greek where you can be very specific.Here are the five words for love in the Greek language:-

1.Themos-passionate love
This is the love you have for something you are passionate about.Medicine,job,sport,football team,art,cooking,baking etc.There should be interest shown for what your partner is passionate about.When correctly put in its place,what you are passionate about can bring you and your spouse closer.What you are passionate about should be able to bring you closer and not further from each other.And what your partner is passionate about shouldn’t dominate their life to an extent that it brings disharmony in marriage.Pray that your passions may be able to bring you closer and not drift you apart.May your jobs not come in the way of your marriage.

2.Eros-sexual love
This is the sexual love. It is acceptable only within the confines of marriage.It’s completely sensual and based on feelings.Feelings rise and fall so it cannot be a base for a good marriage.We will go deeper into this type of love tomorrow.For now pray that you and your fh/husband may get understanding of eros love according to the manual not what people think or say.

3.Phileo-friendship love
This is love one has for their friend. This is the type of love David and Jonathan had for each other.In marriage,phileo love creates an environment for the couple to share their deepest thoughts and inmost selves and allows them to have fun and be free around each other. It produces a strong bond between people.|“The greatest love people can show is to die for their friends. You are my friends if you do what I tell you to do.”‭John‬ ‭15:13-14‬ ‭ERV‬‬| Pray that your fh/husband may be your friend.This may sound like a light prayer but it is very important as some couples don’t have phileo love in their marriage.

4.Storge-family love
This is the love of family relationships-the love of parents toward their children and that of children toward their parents.It is also the love that can be found in extended families.It is also the love between brethren in the family of God. In the Bible this love is found in multiple instances,for example,the love Abraham had for his son Isaac Genesis 22.2,the love found in Martha and Mary who lost their brother Lazarus(John 11),the love Noah had for his wife and children,just to mention a few.|“Friends love through all kinds of weather, and families stick together in all kinds of trouble.”Proverbs‬ ‭17:17‬ ‭MSG‬‬|

5.Agape-God’s love
This is the love that was revealed through Jesus Christ,and is given freely to all who become the children of God by faith.|“Yes, God loved the world so much that he gave his only Son, so that everyone who believes in him would not be lost but have eternal life.’’‭John‬ ‭3:16‬ ‭ERV‬‬| It’s the love God has for His people as well as the love His people give back to Him.It is also the kind of love that the people of God are commanded to have toward one another,the only love not based on feelings.It’s unconditional and has no expectations.It’s the 1st Corinthians 13 type of love and God alone is the source of it and apart from Him,one cannot agape love.It doesn’t require an emotion to function.It’s based on a decision to follow what the Word says and drawing the strength to love this way from your relationship with Christ,and not how you feel or how your partner makes you feel.It is a self-giving,sacrificial love that is not selfish but rather pours itself for the sake of others. Seeing that marriage is modeled after the relationship between Christ and the church,husbands are told to love their wives with this kind of sacrificial,selfless love,the one we prayed about yesterday.|“Husbands, love your wives the same as Christ loved the church and gave his life for it.”Ephesians‬ ‭5:25|

All these types of love must be present and working together in a marriage all the time.One or two without the other(s) is incomplete.
Phileo love alone is too general for marriage,if a married couple feel the same toward each other as they do toward their friends,their marriage is headed for trouble.
Marriage without agape is chaotic and selfish and is usually full of quarrels.
Marriage without phileo leads to a wicked husband or an unkind wife and is boring.
Marriage without eros usually strains the relationship of the couple and leads to adultery.Such marriages are very common among Christians as some couples are too religious and end up having a boring eros love.
Marriage with only eros love is usually short-lived going as far as the physical attraction and what drew the people together in the first place.
A marriage with one or the two people too passionate about their jobs,sport etc falls apart as they never find time for each other.
A marriage with one or both of the partners focusing more on their parents,children or friends brings disharmony in the family.

It’s very important to find the balance and make sure all these types of love are present and balanced in a marriage with Agape being the backbone.Understand that all the other types of love are not sufficient base upon which a meaningful and lasting relationship can be built.When properly expressed though,they can be beautiful expressions of the true love,agape,but not one of them by itself is good enough.

Pray that you and your fh/husband may be able to have all these types of love present and well distributed in your marriage.Draw prayer points from this,there are many prayers that you can get to pray for your marriage and your fh/husband.

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Day9/31; Loving husband

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After knowing the love of the Father,can a husband love himself and only after loving himself can he love you,his wife.According to the manual,how is the husband supposed to love his wife?The bible says husbands should love their wives the way Christ loved the church.How did Christ love the church?|“As for husbands, love your wives just like Christ loved the church and gave himself for her. He did this to make her holy by washing her in a bath of water with the word. He did this to present himself with a splendid church, one without any sort of stain or wrinkle on her clothes, but rather one that is holy and blameless. That’s how husbands ought to love their wives—in the same way as they do their own bodies. Anyone who loves his wife loves himself.”Ephesians‬ ‭5:25-28‬ ‭CEB‬‬|So a husband is to love his wife sacrificially.This means he will sacrifice for you.He would rather be uncomfortable for you to be comfortable.He will do everything possible to see you are provided for.He would rather get hurt trying to protect you.And this even goes to self control,which is the most important.He will control his sexual desire and be faithful to you.This is like beating his own body for you.This is sacrificial love and this is how a husband is to love his wife.He is to sacrifice his own desires to be faithful to you.|“You ask why he no longer accepts them. It is because he knows you have broken your promise to the wife you married when you were young. She was your partner, and you have broken your promise to her, although you promised before God that you would be faithful to her. Didn’t God make you one body and spirit with her? What was his purpose in this? It was that you should have children who are truly God’s people. So make sure that none of you breaks his promise to his wife. “I hate divorce,” says the Lord God of Israel. “I hate it when one of you does such a cruel thing to his wife. Make sure that you do not break your promise to be faithful to your wife.”Malachi‬ ‭2:14-16‬ ‭GNT‬‬|Christ endured the cross for the joy set before him.He was despised,beaten and spit on but He endured because He loved us so much and He knew the results would be beautiful-a holy,blameless church.He didn’t give up on the church,he died for us whilst we were sinners.Your husband doesn’t have to wait for you to be perfect to sacrifice for you,he ought to sacrifice even when you are at your worst.Same applies to us women,we don’t have to wait for our husbands to be perfect in order to love them and submit to them.So the husband’s sacrificial love for his wife is a kind of submission because no man can love his wife this way if he is not submitting to her in reverence to the Lord.

Ephesians 5:25-28 also tells us that Christ presented the church holy,blameless without any sort of stain or wrinkle,in the same way your fh/husband ought to present you before himself and before others. He should be able to show you off and be proud of you,even with your flaws. As he loves himself,so must he love you.

Pray that your fh/husband may love you the way Christ loved the church.May he be able to sacrifice for you.May he even be bold enough to be faithful to you even in this world where people believe it’s normal for a man to not be faithful to his wife because he is a man.Even some women think this is acceptable,women,it’s time to use the manual not what people say or think.Just because so many people think it’s right doesn’t make it right.What matters is what God says.Pray that your fh/husband may operate by the principles of the Word of God.Pray that he draws the strength to love you sacrificially from his relationship with Christ because he surely can’t do it by his own strength no matter how much he loves you. Pray that your fh/husband may be able to love you just as he loves himself. If he has insecurities or difficulty loving himself pray that he be able to overcome that by the strength he received through the grace of Jesus Christ so that he comes to a place where he loves himself so that he is able to love you,and love others also.

For those courting,if your boyfriend cannot wait to have sex in marriage,how sure are you he will be able to sacrifice for you by controlling his sexual desire and remain faithful when you are married?If he cannot control himself now,he won’t also be able to control himself in marriage and he ends up having multiple sexual partners.And for some girls who are not having sex before marriage but are okay with their boyfriends having sex with other women,they say,well he is preserving me but if he preserving you then he should sacrificially preserve you because there is no sacrifice if he is still getting sex somewhere else.Its not only wise to flee from sexual immorality but also from such relationships.If we are to follow the manual,the Word,then we have to consider marrying someone who sacrificially loves us.Its very important.

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Day 8/31: Setting the love life priority right

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If you’ve noticed,we prayed about the base/skeleton of a good marriage.This week we will be focusing on love.So we will dig right into it by setting the right love priority that will make your marriage work.Your prayer for today for your fh/husband is that he gets his love life in the right order. What is the proper order for love?First,it’s learning to love God with everything that’s in you.Secondly,it’s learning to love yourself.If you don’t know how to love God,you will never know how to love yourself and you cannot love your neighbor as yourself until you learn to love yourself.This is made clear in Matthew‬ ‭22:37-39‬ |“He replied, ” You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your being, and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: You must love your neighbor as you love yourself.”‬|.Note very well that unless your fh/husband understands God’s love for Him,spends time cultivating and developing a personal relationship with the Father,he cannot learn to love himself and cannot love you sacrificially like Christ loved the church.So pray that your fh/husband may cultivate his personal relationship with Christ and let God teach him how to love himself and only then can he know to develop proper love with you. Pray against idolization in your marriage.Couples may start idolizing their marriage or each other and exclude God as the centre of their marriage and their lives.God should be your fh/husband’s number one then you.May he love God more than he loves you,may he put God before you. Pray for yourself too for those who are married.You may have put your husband before God and valued him more than you value God.Pray that the Holy Spirit may help you set the love priority right. For those not yet married,pray that you may know you are complete in Christ.You don’t need a husband to make you whole.Pray that you may not idolize marriage to the point that you don’t have joy as a single person.You shouldn’t be looking forward to marriage to bring you joy,you should be full of joy now and go into marriage with that understanding.Pray that your future husband may know he is complete in Christ and doesn’t need you to be complete. For those who desire to be married but have passed the age they were planning to get married.This may be hard time for you as you may start feeling lonely but spend more and more time with God so you don’t end up looking for a mate in order to feel whole.Spend time with God and let him teach you how to love yourself so you can also love your future husband in the proper order.May this waiting time not make you idolize marriage and may it not make you desire a husband more than you desire God. It is very important for those not yet married to not just pray and not put themselves out to be found by their mates.You sure cannot pray and not act on your prayers.In other words,watch and pray,a good man may pass because you are just waiting for the ‘perfect one’.Remember these prayers are not for getting a perfect husband for there is no such.These prayers help you position yourself for a good marriage and help us get into marriage with the right attitude and motive having studied the manual.We are not praying for perfect men but for men with whom we will be able to be helpers. Pray that your fh/husband may understand the Father’s love for him.May the Holy Spirit enlighten the eyes of his heart to see how much God loves him.God loves him so much and he is pleased with him.Its when a man understands the love of God for him that he gets to walk in life with confidence and have high self esteem,with all these flowing from his relationship with Christ. The end.