Day16/31: Soulical intimacy

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Remember,a human is a spirit,possessing a soul and living in a body.So it’s important for a couple to be intimate at every level and develop their relationship at all the three levels.Yesterday we prayed for intimacy at a spiritual level,today we will focus on the second form of intimacy:the soulical level.

At the soulical level,the two individuals involved have to be able to share their goals in life,their failures,commit to the development of each other’s character,give and receive correction,be free to speak to their partner about anything,make themselves vulnerable to their partner,be available to be a pillar of strength,support and comfort each other in trial times,rejoice together in times of success etc.Pray for such intimacy in your marriage.

Pray that your fh/husband may commit to your personal development and nourish you in all aspects of your life as a woman:intellectually,physically and emotionally.Some men do not want to their wives climbing the success ladder,these are men who do not want to connect at a soulical level,pray against this in Jesus’ name.Pray for a fh/husband who is committed to seeing you grow and become a better person,may his presence in your life bring success not failure.Pray for a fh/husband who is committed to work with you on building each other to become better people.

A healthy relationship produces good fruit in the relationship and also in the lives of the two individuals involved.You must see progress in your life because your spouse will be connecting with you at a soulical level.Pray for your fh/husband so he may be a man who challenges you to go to higher levels,a man who causes to dream bigger and not settle for less,someone who believes in you.

It is also important to pray that your vision fits into his vision.|“Shall two walk together, except they have agreed?”Amos‬ ‭3:3‬ ‭ASV|
Most couples experience di-vision in marriage because there will be two visions in the marriage instead of one.Its important to know that marriage becomes easier when your vision fits into his vision as he takes his headship responsibility.By vision we are talking about your purpose in life.Lets take for example a football team and the players.Your fh/husband is like the team and you are a player in this team.The vision and goal of the team is to win.The players put in their best to help the team win but in the process,they end up being stars and succeeding in their career as footballers.This is what happens when your vision fits into his vision,he wins and you end up being a star hence both of you win-you fulfill your purpose and he fulfills his.This is very important as it matters that you fulfill your purpose on this earth.Your spouse is to help you and not be a hindrance to fulfilling your purpose.Pick out prayer points from this and pray earnestly concerning this.

In every wife are the solutions,ideas and answers to every challenge and question a husband faces in trying to fulfill his purpose.This is why the wife is the helper.This is what it means to be a helper.But in order for the man to receive the help,he has to accept,acknowledge and believe in the helper.If a man looks down upon the helper,he cannot receive the help.This is what the following scripture is describing,|“In the same way you husbands must live with your wives with the proper understanding that they are more delicate than you. Treat them with respect, because they also will receive, together with you, God’s gift of life. Do this so that nothing will interfere with your prayers.”1 Peter‬ ‭3:7‬|

This scripture is deep OMG!God is saying husbands must respect and honour their wives as they are co-heirs and equal with men in the new life found in Christ.It means when a husband views his wife inferior to him,he hinders his prayers.How does he hinder his prayer?Because God knew the husband would pray concerning his vision and purpose in life,he put the answers to the prayers in the wife.Glory to God!God already answered the husband’s prayer by packing the answers in the form of help in the wife.So if he doesn’t honour and respect you,it’s impossible for you to help him.So pray that your fh/husband esteems you and respect you enough to accept your role in his life-being his helper.Pray that he may not look down on your role that he ends up abusing,despising and seeing himself superior to you.Instead may he lift you and bring out the best God put in you and help you fulfill your purpose.

The end.

Day15/31: Intimacy

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Last week we prayed about love.This week we are focusing on intimacy in marriage and family.

To keep a relationship healthy,the two people involved have to constantly and intentionally work on it.Marriage doesn’t come easy,it’s a ministry on its own.People know this but they often struggle with finding practical ways to make their marriage work.After putting the base/skeleton for your marriage(all we prayed for in the first week) and applying the love principles we prayed about last week,the next thing that you and your spouse can practically do to make your marriage journey easier is being intimate.What is the highest form of intimacy in marriage?Its spiritual intimacy,a closeness that’s created by praying together,worshipping and spending time with God as a couple.

|“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”Genesis‬ ‭2:24‬ ‭ASV‬‬|
A man and woman leave their parents to become united. They become one flesh.Every couple has a desire to become more intimate emotionally, physically, and spiritually.Take note of this,when two people are spiritually intimate,it becomes easier to be intimate in every other area.Pray for the desire for God’s presence to be in your relationship with your fh/husband.

It’s sad that we now know spiritual intimacy brings about intimacy in every other area but this is the area that is least developed in most marriages.It takes time, open communication, humility, grace, and a desire for spiritual growth for any couple to grow together spiritually. Even then, there are major blocks we must overcome to achieve it.We will pray about some of these hindrances to intimacy on another day.For now pray that your fh/husband may desire to grow spiritually with you.Some men do not like praying with their wives,some don’t find it manly,some think people pray together in church only and some don’t want to take their role of leading the family spiritually.Pray against this type of thinking.Also pray for a man with a vision of building a God-centred home.

Praying together is very important and is one of the things you need to pray for.There is nothing as powerful as a couple that prays together and prays about everything.Praying together lifts burdens from both of you and makes you focus on where the solution comes from in the case of facing challenges.

Worshiping together is one of the things that can keep God at the centre of your relationship.It saturates your home with God’s presence for God inhabits the praises of His people.

It is only when a husband and wife pray together before God that they find the secret of true harmony: that the difference in their temperaments, their ideas, and their tastes enriches their home instead of endangering it.

The end.

Day13/31: Storge 2-family love

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Yesterday we prayed for husbands who will be fathers that express storge in form of affection.Today we are focusing on expression of storge in form of mentoring.

A home is somewhere children are trained,groomed and prepared for life.Parents have a big role in mentoring their children.A mentor is a person who gives an example of Christlikeness.So the environment created at home is to encourage children to give their lives to Christ.|“Didn’t God create you and your wife to become like one person? And why did he do this? It was so you would have children, and then lead them to become God’s people. Don’t ever be unfaithful to your wife.”Malachi‬ ‭2:15‬|

It is at home that talents and gifts are to be discovered and celebrated and a child’s potential is realized.Pray that you and your fh/husband may be able to encourage your children in their gifts and talents.Pray that they may feel free to be who they are in the image of God.May you be able to mentor them to become the best they can be in life.Some parents compare their children and show favour towards one,this is a recipe for disaster.Pray that you may love,respect and celebrate your children’s differences.

Pray that you and your spouse may be able to balance discipline and love toward your children.May he be a good leader of your family as the head and may your children obey him with respect.|“He must be a good leader of his own family. This means that his children obey him with full respect. If a man does not know how to lead his own family, he will not be able to take care of God’s church.”‭‭1 Timothy‬ ‭3:4-5‬ ‭ERV‬‬|

Pray that your husband may be able to lead your family spiritually in bringing up your children.May he be able to guide them and lead them in Agape love.|“Fathers, don’t exasperate your children by coming down hard on them. Take them by the hand and lead them in the way of the Master.”Ephesians‬ ‭6:4‬ ‭MSG‬‬|

It is at home that girls are taught how to be ladies and boys are taught to be men.Pray that you and your fh/husband may be able to train your them.Pray that your husband may take the role as the father to show his sons how to be princes and show his daughters how they are supposed to be treated as princesses.May he also be able to treat you with respect like a queen and as a fellow-heirs in the new life in Christ.|“In the same way you husbands must live with your wives with the proper understanding that they are more delicate than you. Treat them with respect, because they also will receive, together with you, God’s gift of life. Do this so that nothing will interfere with your prayers.”1 Peter‬ ‭3:7‬ ‭GNT‬‬|

Some people may not have experienced storge love physically in their family but remember God sets up the lonely in families.|“You find families for those who are lonely. You set prisoners free and let them prosper…Psalms‬ ‭68:6‬| The church fulfills the need of people that missed physical family and they can get storge from the spiritual family in Christ.We are family in Christ Jesus.There are fathers and mothers,brothers and sisters.|Titus 2.2-8|The believers can feel up this gap in your life and you feel fulfilled just like you had a physical family.|“Do not rebuke an older man, but appeal to him as if he were your father.Treat the younger men as your brothers, the older women as mothers, and the younger women as sisters, with all purity.”1 Timothy‬ ‭5:1-2‬ ‭GNT‬‬|
So pray that if you or your husband did not have a physical family expressing storge,may God set you up in a family with believers who will storge love you.

*NB:Tomorrow,there won’t be any post.Its a reflection Sunday,you can use the day to reflect on what we were praying and meditating on throughout the week.

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Day 12/31: Storge-family love

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Storge is family love.God created humans in such a way that they desire to be part of a family and when God designed family,He put a special bond that binds the relatives together and this natural bond is called storge.It’s the bond that keeps siblings together even after an ugly fight.

However,most people feel this love but they never express it.It is especially difficult for most men to express storge.Most men feel like when they express love,they are not man enough,they are too soft and they are not masculine.But where did this mindset come from?Clearly,it’s not there in the Word.The bible talks about how Jesus wanted the little children to come to him.These children literally sat close to Him and some were even on His laps.Jesus is the perfect example and role model for all men.Jesus expressed his love towards children.He showed them affection.

The other hindrance to most men showing affection to their children is love has been reduced to sexuality/eros love such that they end up feeling like it’s wrong to express storge in form of affection(hugs,kisses,gifts,affirmation).Expression of storge towards children,wives,husbands and relatives is biblical.
Take a moment to read the following scriptures:
1.Hugs,kisses and embraces
|“But Jacob himself went on ahead of them, and he bowed toward the ground seven times as he approached his brother. But Esau ran to meet him, embraced him, hugged his neck, and kissed him. Then they both wept.Genesis‬ ‭33:3-4‬ ‭NET|
|“Then his father Isaac said to him, “Come here and kiss me, my son.” So Jacob went over and kissed him. When Isaac caught the scent of his clothing, he blessed him, saying, “Yes, my son smells like the scent of an open field which the LORD has blessed.”‭‭Genesis‬ ‭27:26-27‬ ‭NET|
2.Gifts
|“Jacob stayed there that night. Then he sent as a gift to his brother Esau two hundred female goats and twenty male goats, two hundred ewes and twenty rams, thirty female camels with their young, forty cows and ten bulls, and twenty female donkeys and ten male donkeys.”Genesis‬ ‭32:13-15‬ ‭NET|
3.Affirmation and praise
|“Her children say good things about her. Her husband brags about her and says, “There are many good women, but you are the best.””Proverbs‬ ‭31:28-29‬ ‭ESV|

For some people,it’s hard for them to give or receive affection because they were deprived of storge when they were growing up.This tends to be a problem as they can’t give storge to their children.They end up showing their love in other forms like providing.Providing for the child is not enough,there is need to get involved in the child’s life-help them with their homework,spend time with them,go watch them play their favorite sport,attend their school events and cheer for them etc.Most fathers don’t take these seriously,pray for your husband that he be a father who expresses storge to your children.May they be free to talk to him,not just about serious issues like school but even silly stories children enjoy.Pray that your husband may not be ashamed to show affection towards you and your children.

Pray that if he was deprived of affection when he was young,he may learn from Jesus,it may not be easy for him but the Holy Spirit can teach him to express love.Pray that his experience may not affect how he fathers your children.Most times when storge is not fulfilled,people tend to feel lonely,rejected,empty etc.Pray against these in the name of Jesus.May he be free from all negativity that comes with the deprivation.

Intimate family relationships are among the most difficult things we must deal with as humans, because closeness leads to the exposure of who we really are, inside and out. To help us prepare for the intimacy demanded in marriage, we have a very short period in life that God seems to give us for practice.This period is the time we live with the families we were born in.Our families know our best and our worst.It is also of essence that we understand that not only do those closest to us get under our skin and irritate us, but they also have the power to wound us in a way no one can.It gets hard to be able to trust again.These wounds can be in the form of abuse-emotional,verbal,sexual etc.The scar the hurt leaves only needs Jesus to fix it and be able to trust and love again.Jesus is the only hope to being able to receive and give storge again.So pray for all couples around the world who have experienced this.If you know anyone or if you or your husband experienced this,pray that you experience God’s love so you may be able to receive and give love again.

Pray that in your family,you may be able to express storge in form of affection.

The end.

Day11/31: Eros-Sexual love

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Yesterday we prayed about different types of love.Today we are focusing on Eros love.

Eros is sexual love.Sex is anything that is part of love making between two people and that arouses one or both of them.In our society,sex is equated to intercourse,but sex is much more than intercourse.Intercourse is just part of lovemaking.So a couple can have sex without having intercourse.The Bible says do not awaken love until it is time(the time is in marriage).The love being talked about here is eros love.So the Word is not talking about intercourse only but anything you can do that arouses eros love.|“Oh, let me warn you, sisters in Jerusalem: Don’t excite love, don’t stir it up, until the time is ripe—and you’re ready.”
‭‭Song of Solomon‬ ‭8:4 ‭MSG‬‬|

Although we live in a sex-saturated world where sex is talked about everywhere,on the tv,advertisements etc,much of the discussions of sex are based on dreams, fantasy, and human ideas rather than on truth, reality, and the wisdom of God.Its amazing how the church has contributed very little or nothing concerning sex yet our God is the One who designed it.We should be the ones who are able to speak confidently and wisely about sex than any other.Why are discussions on sex such a taboo in the church?Is it because of being shy,confused,ignorant,religious or taking sex as a non-spiritual subject?As believers let’s find the truth and be the ones to spread the truth on sex from the manual.Pray that you and your fh/husband may see sex as holy and clean as God sees it in marriage.Pray that you may desire to find the truth concerning this subject as a couple.

The subject of sex has been greatly misunderstood and one major misconception is that sex and love are inseparable.It is very important to note that love can exist without sex and in this world,sex can occur without love.So sex and love are not dependent on each other.Within the boundaries of marriage established by God,sex is an intimate and beautiful expression of love,but sex by itself is not love.Unlike true love-agape,eros love is completely sensual.It’s based on feelings and therefore rises and falls as feelings do.Pray that you and your fh/husband may not base your marriage on eros love.May you base your marriage on a constant and unconditional love,Agape.May your fh/husband value you and see you beyond eros love.May he be committed to you.

Pray that you don’t look at sex as a non-spiritual subject.It is very spiritual within the limits set by God.Many believers feel uncomfortable and feel it’s a taboo to understand this subject.But what’s wrong with understanding the subject of sex from the Word itself?The reason why sex is greatly misunderstood and abused in this world is because we the believers,are not open to talk about what God says about sex.We also end up using principles of the world when dealing with the sex subject instead of principles on the Word thus there is no difference between the believers and non-believers.Start looking for answers on this subject from the Word.Be free to study and know what the Word says about it.Even for single ladies,study and show yourself approved,a workman that need not to be ashamed.2 Timothy 2.15.People perish because of lack of knowledge,lack of knowledge doesn’t only mean not having the knowledge,it could also mean having the wrong knowledge.Many unmarried young people are having sex,they think it’s cool because they don’t have the right information about it(they have information from the world) and because they never studied about it from the manual.Today,make the decision to start finding the truth and be set free from the world’s view of sex.If you are having sex and you are not yet married,study on this subject from the Word and ask the Holy Spirit to help you understand.Once you get an understanding from the Word,once you know the truth,you’ll be set free.Get in the habit of studying the Word yourself and stop listening to people who condemn you.You are forgiven and if your heart condemns you,know that God is greater than your heart.God delights in showing mercy and mercy triumphs over judgment.

Appropriate and truly fulfilling sexual expression can occur only within the careful and specific limits God established in marriage.Outside marriage,there is trouble,guilt,shame,rejection,fear,sorrow,disappointment and heartache.Within the marriage,with the the limits established by God of one husband and one wife devoted to each other-there is great freedom,flexibility and joy.Pray against boredom,a monotonous sex life in your marriage,just because you are Christians doesn’t mean you should be tied down to a certain way thinking about sex.Pray that you may come out of the religious box and be able to enjoy the gift of sex in marriage. Why do we associate sex with dirt?Where does the mindset of thinking sex is dirty even in a marital context come from?These all come from the world’s view of sex and not the manual.Look,For Paul to write on the subject of sex and he was single,it shows that what he was writing was plainly by revelation.The Holy Spirit,yes the Holy Spirit who was revealing these things to him.The Holy Spirit is our helper even in understanding a widely misunderstood subject,sex.Ask the Holy Spirit to help you understand what the Word says on the subject of sex.Dont be shy to ask God questions,don’t be too religious to think it’s sin to want to understand the subject of sex.Sister,this is the truth that’s lacking in the body of Christ.Make a decision today to bring down those strongholds and pray that the Holy Spirit help you understand this.It is time for the church to start providing the right information about sex to the whole world.It’s all there in the manual.Pray that you and your fh/husband may understand this and pray you may be free from worldly wisdom concerning sex and start viewing sex as God views it.

Note well that Eros love alone is selfish and interested in personal gratification and not concerned with the other person.Alone,it is a sexual desire that’s out of control.A person driven by eros alone sees their partner as nothing more than a sex object.Pray that you and your spouse may see yourselves beyond eros love and that you may balance all the love types in your marriage with the base of Agape love.

The end.

Day11/31: Eros-Sexual love

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Yesterday we prayed about different types of love.Today we are focusing on Eros love.

Eros is sexual love.Sex is anything that is part of love making between two people and that arouses one or both of them.In our society,sex is equated to intercourse,but sex is much more than intercourse.Intercourse is just part of lovemaking.So a couple can have sex without having intercourse.The Bible says do not awaken love until it is time(the time is in marriage).The love being talked about here is eros love.So the Word is not talking about intercourse only but anything you can do that arouses eros love.|“Oh, let me warn you, sisters in Jerusalem: Don’t excite love, don’t stir it up, until the time is ripe—and you’re ready.”
‭‭Song of Solomon‬ ‭8:4 ‭MSG‬‬|

Although we live in a sex-saturated world where sex is talked about everywhere,on the tv,advertisements etc,much of the discussions of sex are based on dreams, fantasy, and human ideas rather than on truth, reality, and the wisdom of God.Its amazing how the church has contributed very little or nothing concerning sex yet our God is the One who designed it.We should be the ones who are able to speak confidently and wisely about sex than any other.Why are discussions on sex such a taboo in the church?Is it because of being shy,confused,ignorant,religious or taking sex as a non-spiritual subject?As believers let’s find the truth and be the ones to spread the truth on sex from the manual.Pray that you and your fh/husband may see sex as holy and clean as God sees it in marriage.Pray that you may desire to find the truth concerning this subject as a couple.

The subject of sex has been greatly misunderstood and one major misconception is that sex and love are inseparable.It is very important to note that love can exist without sex and in this world,sex can occur without love.So sex and love are not dependent on each other.Within the boundaries of marriage established by God,sex is an intimate and beautiful expression of love,but sex by itself is not love.Unlike true love-agape,eros love is completely sensual.It’s based on feelings and therefore rises and falls as feelings do.Pray that you and your fh/husband may not base your marriage on eros love.May you base your marriage on a constant and unconditional love,Agape.May your fh/husband value you and see you beyond eros love.May he be committed to you.

Pray that you don’t look at sex as a non-spiritual subject.It is very spiritual within the limits set by God.Many believers feel uncomfortable and feel it’s a taboo to understand this subject.But what’s wrong with understanding the subject of sex from the Word itself?The reason why sex is greatly misunderstood and abused in this world is because we the believers,are not open to talk about what God says about sex.We also end up using principles of the world when dealing with the sex subject instead of principles on the Word thus there is no difference between the believers and non-believers.Start looking for answers on this subject from the Word.Be free to study and know what the Word says about it.Even for single ladies,study and show yourself approved,a workman that need not to be ashamed.2 Timothy 2.15.People perish because of lack of knowledge,lack of knowledge doesn’t only mean not having the knowledge,it could also mean having the wrong knowledge.Many unmarried young people are having sex,they think it’s cool because they don’t have the right information about it(they have information from the world) and because they never studied about it from the manual.Today,make the decision to start finding the truth and be set free from the world’s view of sex.If you are having sex and you are not yet married,study on this subject from the Word and ask the Holy Spirit to help you understand.Once you get an understanding from the Word,once you know the truth,you’ll be set free.Get in the habit of studying the Word yourself and stop listening to people who condemn you.You are forgiven and if your heart condemns you,know that God is greater than your heart.God delights in showing mercy and mercy triumphs over judgment.

Appropriate and truly fulfilling sexual expression can occur only within the careful and specific limits God established in marriage.Outside marriage,there is trouble,guilt,shame,rejection,fear,sorrow,disappointment and heartache.Within the marriage,with the the limits established by God of one husband and one wife devoted to each other-there is great freedom,flexibility and joy.Pray against boredom,a monotonous sex life in your marriage,just because you are Christians doesn’t mean you should be tied down to a certain way thinking about sex.Pray that you may come out of the religious box and be able to enjoy the gift of sex in marriage. Why do we associate sex with dirt?Where does the mindset of thinking sex is dirty even in a marital context come from?These all come from the world’s view of sex and not the manual.Look,For Paul to write on the subject of sex and he was single,it shows that what he was writing was plainly by revelation.The Holy Spirit,yes the Holy Spirit who was revealing these things to him.The Holy Spirit is our helper even in understanding a widely misunderstood subject,sex.Ask the Holy Spirit to help you understand what the Word says on the subject of sex.Dont be shy to ask God questions,don’t be too religious to think it’s sin to want to understand the subject of sex.Sister,this is the truth that’s lacking in the body of Christ.Make a decision today to bring down those strongholds and pray that the Holy Spirit help you understand this.It is time for the church to start providing the right information about sex to the whole world.It’s all there in the manual.Pray that you and your fh/husband may understand this and pray you may be free from worldly wisdom concerning sex and start viewing sex as God views it.

Note well that Eros love alone is selfish and interested in personal gratification and not concerned with the other person.Alone,it is a sexual desire that’s out of control.A person driven by eros alone sees their partner as nothing more than a sex object.Pray that you and your spouse may see yourselves beyond eros love and that you may balance all the love types in your marriage with the base of Agape love.

The end.

Day10/31: Understanding love

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So many relationships today fail because of an inadequate understanding of love.Whats is the difference between loving food and loving your favourite football team.Loving your husband and loving your children?These surely can’t be the same kind of love.For a marriage to properly function,there should be understanding and a balance of these different types of love.English is quite limited in words unlike other languages such as Greek where you can be very specific.Here are the five words for love in the Greek language:-

1.Themos-passionate love
This is the love you have for something you are passionate about.Medicine,job,sport,football team,art,cooking,baking etc.There should be interest shown for what your partner is passionate about.When correctly put in its place,what you are passionate about can bring you and your spouse closer.What you are passionate about should be able to bring you closer and not further from each other.And what your partner is passionate about shouldn’t dominate their life to an extent that it brings disharmony in marriage.Pray that your passions may be able to bring you closer and not drift you apart.May your jobs not come in the way of your marriage.

2.Eros-sexual love
This is the sexual love. It is acceptable only within the confines of marriage.It’s completely sensual and based on feelings.Feelings rise and fall so it cannot be a base for a good marriage.We will go deeper into this type of love tomorrow.For now pray that you and your fh/husband may get understanding of eros love according to the manual not what people think or say.

3.Phileo-friendship love
This is love one has for their friend. This is the type of love David and Jonathan had for each other.In marriage,phileo love creates an environment for the couple to share their deepest thoughts and inmost selves and allows them to have fun and be free around each other. It produces a strong bond between people.|“The greatest love people can show is to die for their friends. You are my friends if you do what I tell you to do.”‭John‬ ‭15:13-14‬ ‭ERV‬‬| Pray that your fh/husband may be your friend.This may sound like a light prayer but it is very important as some couples don’t have phileo love in their marriage.

4.Storge-family love
This is the love of family relationships-the love of parents toward their children and that of children toward their parents.It is also the love that can be found in extended families.It is also the love between brethren in the family of God. In the Bible this love is found in multiple instances,for example,the love Abraham had for his son Isaac Genesis 22.2,the love found in Martha and Mary who lost their brother Lazarus(John 11),the love Noah had for his wife and children,just to mention a few.|“Friends love through all kinds of weather, and families stick together in all kinds of trouble.”Proverbs‬ ‭17:17‬ ‭MSG‬‬|

5.Agape-God’s love
This is the love that was revealed through Jesus Christ,and is given freely to all who become the children of God by faith.|“Yes, God loved the world so much that he gave his only Son, so that everyone who believes in him would not be lost but have eternal life.’’‭John‬ ‭3:16‬ ‭ERV‬‬| It’s the love God has for His people as well as the love His people give back to Him.It is also the kind of love that the people of God are commanded to have toward one another,the only love not based on feelings.It’s unconditional and has no expectations.It’s the 1st Corinthians 13 type of love and God alone is the source of it and apart from Him,one cannot agape love.It doesn’t require an emotion to function.It’s based on a decision to follow what the Word says and drawing the strength to love this way from your relationship with Christ,and not how you feel or how your partner makes you feel.It is a self-giving,sacrificial love that is not selfish but rather pours itself for the sake of others. Seeing that marriage is modeled after the relationship between Christ and the church,husbands are told to love their wives with this kind of sacrificial,selfless love,the one we prayed about yesterday.|“Husbands, love your wives the same as Christ loved the church and gave his life for it.”Ephesians‬ ‭5:25|

All these types of love must be present and working together in a marriage all the time.One or two without the other(s) is incomplete.
Phileo love alone is too general for marriage,if a married couple feel the same toward each other as they do toward their friends,their marriage is headed for trouble.
Marriage without agape is chaotic and selfish and is usually full of quarrels.
Marriage without phileo leads to a wicked husband or an unkind wife and is boring.
Marriage without eros usually strains the relationship of the couple and leads to adultery.Such marriages are very common among Christians as some couples are too religious and end up having a boring eros love.
Marriage with only eros love is usually short-lived going as far as the physical attraction and what drew the people together in the first place.
A marriage with one or the two people too passionate about their jobs,sport etc falls apart as they never find time for each other.
A marriage with one or both of the partners focusing more on their parents,children or friends brings disharmony in the family.

It’s very important to find the balance and make sure all these types of love are present and balanced in a marriage with Agape being the backbone.Understand that all the other types of love are not sufficient base upon which a meaningful and lasting relationship can be built.When properly expressed though,they can be beautiful expressions of the true love,agape,but not one of them by itself is good enough.

Pray that you and your fh/husband may be able to have all these types of love present and well distributed in your marriage.Draw prayer points from this,there are many prayers that you can get to pray for your marriage and your fh/husband.

The end.