After knowing the love of the Father,can a husband love himself and only after loving himself can he love you,his wife.According to the manual,how is the husband supposed to love his wife?The bible says husbands should love their wives the way Christ loved the church.How did Christ love the church?|“As for husbands, love your wives just like Christ loved the church and gave himself for her. He did this to make her holy by washing her in a bath of water with the word. He did this to present himself with a splendid church, one without any sort of stain or wrinkle on her clothes, but rather one that is holy and blameless. That’s how husbands ought to love their wives—in the same way as they do their own bodies. Anyone who loves his wife loves himself.”Ephesians 5:25-28 CEB|So a husband is to love his wife sacrificially.This means he will sacrifice for you.He would rather be uncomfortable for you to be comfortable.He will do everything possible to see you are provided for.He would rather get hurt trying to protect you.And this even goes to self control,which is the most important.He will control his sexual desire and be faithful to you.This is like beating his own body for you.This is sacrificial love and this is how a husband is to love his wife.He is to sacrifice his own desires to be faithful to you.|“You ask why he no longer accepts them. It is because he knows you have broken your promise to the wife you married when you were young. She was your partner, and you have broken your promise to her, although you promised before God that you would be faithful to her. Didn’t God make you one body and spirit with her? What was his purpose in this? It was that you should have children who are truly God’s people. So make sure that none of you breaks his promise to his wife. “I hate divorce,” says the Lord God of Israel. “I hate it when one of you does such a cruel thing to his wife. Make sure that you do not break your promise to be faithful to your wife.”Malachi 2:14-16 GNT|Christ endured the cross for the joy set before him.He was despised,beaten and spit on but He endured because He loved us so much and He knew the results would be beautiful-a holy,blameless church.He didn’t give up on the church,he died for us whilst we were sinners.Your husband doesn’t have to wait for you to be perfect to sacrifice for you,he ought to sacrifice even when you are at your worst.Same applies to us women,we don’t have to wait for our husbands to be perfect in order to love them and submit to them.So the husband’s sacrificial love for his wife is a kind of submission because no man can love his wife this way if he is not submitting to her in reverence to the Lord.
Ephesians 5:25-28 also tells us that Christ presented the church holy,blameless without any sort of stain or wrinkle,in the same way your fh/husband ought to present you before himself and before others. He should be able to show you off and be proud of you,even with your flaws. As he loves himself,so must he love you.
Pray that your fh/husband may love you the way Christ loved the church.May he be able to sacrifice for you.May he even be bold enough to be faithful to you even in this world where people believe it’s normal for a man to not be faithful to his wife because he is a man.Even some women think this is acceptable,women,it’s time to use the manual not what people say or think.Just because so many people think it’s right doesn’t make it right.What matters is what God says.Pray that your fh/husband may operate by the principles of the Word of God.Pray that he draws the strength to love you sacrificially from his relationship with Christ because he surely can’t do it by his own strength no matter how much he loves you. Pray that your fh/husband may be able to love you just as he loves himself. If he has insecurities or difficulty loving himself pray that he be able to overcome that by the strength he received through the grace of Jesus Christ so that he comes to a place where he loves himself so that he is able to love you,and love others also.
For those courting,if your boyfriend cannot wait to have sex in marriage,how sure are you he will be able to sacrifice for you by controlling his sexual desire and remain faithful when you are married?If he cannot control himself now,he won’t also be able to control himself in marriage and he ends up having multiple sexual partners.And for some girls who are not having sex before marriage but are okay with their boyfriends having sex with other women,they say,well he is preserving me but if he preserving you then he should sacrificially preserve you because there is no sacrifice if he is still getting sex somewhere else.Its not only wise to flee from sexual immorality but also from such relationships.If we are to follow the manual,the Word,then we have to consider marrying someone who sacrificially loves us.Its very important.