Day 2 of 31-Why should I marry a believer?


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Yesterday we talked about the most important decision one can make in life being receiving Christ.Why is it so important to marry someone who has a relationship with Christ,especially for those not yet married?The bible encourages us not to be unequally yoked to unbelievers.It’s good to just not follow this for the sake of following a command,that is an Old Testament operation.Lets remember in the New Testament if we follow commandments in the Word,we don’t do it because we are scared of punishment(God is not angry with us anymore Romans 5.9-11;|“Glory to God in the highest [heaven], And on earth peace among men with whom He is well-pleased.” LUKE‬ ‭2:14‬ ‭AMP‬‬|God is pleased with us,He is not angry at us).We follow commandments because of understanding the Father’s love for us.Imagine a little girl telling her dad to quit smoking.If the father quits smoking,it’s not because he is scared of his daughter but because he knows his daughter loves him so much and has good intentions for him when she tells him to quit.He listens to her because he knows and has understanding of his daughter’s love for him and because he loves her.He understands his daughter wants him there when she graduates,when she walks down the aisle at her wedding etc.

So let’s think of this command ‘do not be unequally yoked to an unbeliever’ in that way.|Don’t become partners with those who reject God. How can you make a partnership out of right and wrong? That’s not partnership; that’s war. Is light best friends with dark? Does Christ go strolling with the Devil? Do trust and mistrust hold hands? Who would think of setting up pagan idols in God’s holy Temple? But that is exactly what we are, each of us a temple in whom God lives.‭..2 Corinthians‬ ‭6:14-16 ‭MSG‬‬| God loves us so much and has good intentions for us when he tells us not to marry an unbeliever.When we see it this way,we get an understanding on why. This is because if a man can reject a perfect and sinless Jesus then how can he be able to accept you who is not perfect.Also we should know that already marriage is not easy even when you have two believers who are completely in harmony spiritually,now what more when one is not a believer.In order to be more in sync with your spouse, the Christian will have to push Christ to the margins of his or her life. This may not involve actually repudiating the faith, but in matters such as devotional life, hospitality to believers (small group meetings, emergency hosting of people in need), missionary support, tithing, raising children in the faith, fellowship with other believers—those things will have to be minimized or avoided in order to preserve peace in the home.

So after getting this understanding,let’s now pray that just as we are going to start doing things with understanding,may our husbands also do things with understanding,may the Holy Spirit reveal this truth in their hearts today.Also pray that in your marriage,you may follow what the Word says with understanding.May you not be a couple that just religiously follows commandments but a couple that follows because of understanding and because of your love for the Father.

For ladies with unbelieving husbands,God does not hate your marriage because your husband doesn’t know Christ.God wants to see you happy in your marriage.He gave this command because He cares.|“In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands [subordinate, not as inferior, but out of respect for the responsibilities entrusted to husbands and their accountability to God, and so partnering with them] so that even if some do not obey the word [of God], they may be won over [to Christ] without discussion by the godly lives of their wives,” 1PETER‬ ‭3:1‬ ‭AMP| Don’t think of submitting as a punishment or degrading you,it’s an honour to submit to him because when you do,you have power.The Bible gives you something you can practically do to win your husband to Christ.Also when you stop thinking that you are lower than him,it’s easier to submit.Remember,our spirits are just the same.What’s different is the body,he is male and you are female.Each sex has its own strengths and weaknesses.None between the two is superior to the other.So with this understanding,you can now follow the commandment of submission.

This concept of following the commands with understanding applies to every commandment in the Word,be it do not steal,bring unto my storehouse tithes and offerings,submit to your husband,husbands love your wives,children obey your parents in the Lord etc.Search through your bible for some commandments and meditate on why God would ask us to do those things.

Note very well though that following these commands does not save us or make us qualify to go to heaven,make us right with God or make God love us more.Following these commandments with understanding helps us on this earth to live peacefully with others and enjoy what God provided by grace.It benefits us.So following the command to marry a believer makes your marital journey easier.

The end.


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